In a not so distant past I was invited by a Christian group to a workshop/seminar they have for single parents/ single moms. The title or theme of the workdhop was “Feeling Desperate and Low”. I got offended and hurt by their title that I immediately said I won’t go to their event. In my defense I posted the incident on my personal Facebook wall and vent out how I am never gonna associate myself with a group who thinks so ill of single moms like me.
How could they uplift us if at the start they think so low of us. If that is their strategy saying they picked you up on your lowest point. The fact is, they were the first to put us in that position. It is wrong in many levels. I got an apology from that by their member saying that was not their intetion. They just want to validate the fact that often single moms and parents feel low and rejected. Which is basically true in the sense because most people discriminate us in a way like this showing us our misfortunes rather than our strenghts .
While it is true that single moms feel low and rejected at times, it is because of people like this who can’t look past our labels or marital status.
Not all married couples with kids are raising their child well and are providing all the love, attention, basic needs and small luxuries for their “complete family”.
It is true that single moms like me feel weak at times raising a child solo. That we know as a single parent we are not enough to give the best for our kid. We are also strenghtened by this fact and try to work double time or more so our child doesn’t feel insecure having only one parent.
Single moms are strong in a way not to show tears or fears to their child. Even if they are tired, about to give up and sometimes wish to vanish from the face of the planet. They never run, they never hide. They face the challenges of single parenthood head on with pride.
We are strenghtened by our undying love for our child. We may be solo but we have a lot of love to give for our child. You cannot give what you don’t have. We single moms are overflowing with love for or child. In my case I will fight, live and die for my daughter. Kesehodang wala akong love life or di na ako magaasawa ever, basta I will be here for my daughter and give her all the love in the world.
While sometimes I wish to have a love life, a boyfriend or maybe get married someday. I shrug-off the feeling because of one fear that a good boyfriend or husband for me may not be the best father for my daughter.
Don’t worry about me, I am a strong person. I can pacify myself with getting what I need for myself all the time. I can paddle my way safely to shore. Some things we do better solo. One of our super powers as single moms is time management, we know our priorities and we know when to give in to our own needs and fuel up.
We are part time woman/human and full time mom/superhuman. Do not pity us, just treat us as your equal, nobody is ever perfect and. unstained in their life.
The only fear we have is not being ostracized but the fear of not being able to raise our children to become the better than we are.
I am honored to be chosen by P&G Ariel in their roster of 100 Fearless Filipina as a Fearless Mother and Blogger. I hope as a blogger I continue to inspire and encourage women in the same position to go and live the life you want because you deserve it.
As we conclude Women’s Month this March P&G Ariel pays tribute to all Filipinas who continue to strive to improve the lives of their families and their communities. Ariel recognizes the journey to success is often stained by roadblocks that test one’s strength, dedication, and commitment, yet Filipinas are known to stand up from the fall, wash their fears away, and bravely face the world.
Stay gorgeous everyone