Vengeance Is Not the Answer

When someone did you wrong, should you retaliate?

How will you retaliate? Hurt the same person who hurt you same way he/she did? Or hurt the same person doing the same way he/she did with another?

Revenge is sweet sometimes but looking deeper into it, revenge will hurt you too. It hurt the person who hurt you. The only people who can hurt us so much are the people we love so much. If we don’t get hurt by what they did or do, we don’t care anymore.

Also, the pain you caused to the person you hurt will linger forever, it will haunt you. Some events that will trigger the memories when you were hurt and the thing that hurt you will remind you forever. Forgiving is easy but forgetting is different.

How can you grow in the present if you don’t value the lessons of your past?

It all boils down; don’t hurt anyone if you don’t want to get hurt. Vengeance is not the answer. Do not do to others what you not want them do to you.
When you hurt someone, you will get hurt too.

Cultural differences, gender differences, distance, values, these are just some of the variation of couples wanting to be together have to consider. Could they sacrifice one for another, make compromises, change, accept, understand?

Most of us can forgive and forget; we just don’t want the other person to forget that we forgave. Ivern Ball

The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget. Thomas S. Szasz

Surely it is much more generous to forgive and remember, than to forgive and forget. Maria Edgeworth

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  1. Hahahahahaha! AOR death is the answer eh? lol! the fastest and easiest way to forgive and forget lol if the perpetrator is dead or the the one hurt died yikes what morbid thought hahahaha!

  2. The title speaks for itself, vengeance is not ours and there is no exit to get rid of it. It’s easier to forgive and to forget the people who hurt us.

    Forgiving is assocaiated with the healing of time. If they keep on hurting us because they know for sure that we will forgive them, that’s the time to forget them.

    Forgetting them is assocaiated with keeping far and away from them, getting ways not to talk to them, in simple phrase, FORGET them totally. And if for any and whatever reason, they are still trying to hurt us and keep on hurting us, kill them …

    That’s it … Kill them.

    But the problem is how?

  3. Bobby,

    I think you are right once we can forgive ourself for being naive then we can forgive others for hurting us. But yeah it’s easier said than done.


    Yeah it’s really hard to forgive when the wound is very deep and all faith you have to this person that hurt you came crashing down. But yeah to move on we must try not to dwell to much on the past that cannot be taken back and hope that in the future you won’t be hurt anymore.

  4. It’s always hard to forgive. For one, we are just humans, weak and sometimes self-centered. Deep hurts are really hard to let go… but it’s the only way for us to be able to move on instead of being poisoned by the life out of us:)

    Nice post, girl! keep it up:)

  5. Nice article.

    I think sometimes that if we can forgive ourselves, we can learn to forgive others. For some it’s easier said than done, while others hold the true magic of forgiveness!

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