How will you retaliate? Hurt the same person who hurt you same way he/she did? Or hurt the same person doing the same way he/she did with another?
Revenge is sweet sometimes but looking deeper into it, revenge will hurt you too. It hurt the person who hurt you. The only people who can hurt us so much are the people we love so much. If we don’t get hurt by what they did or do, we don’t care anymore.
Also, the pain you caused to the person you hurt will linger forever, it will haunt you. Some events that will trigger the memories when you were hurt and the thing that hurt you will remind you forever. Forgiving is easy but forgetting is different.
How can you grow in the present if you don’t value the lessons of your past?
It all boils down; don’t hurt anyone if you don’t want to get hurt. Vengeance is not the answer. Do not do to others what you not want them do to you.
When you hurt someone, you will get hurt too.
Cultural differences, gender differences, distance, values, these are just some of the variation of couples wanting to be together have to consider. Could they sacrifice one for another, make compromises, change, accept, understand?
The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget. Thomas S. Szasz
Surely it is much more generous to forgive and remember, than to forgive and forget. Maria Edgeworth