“Honesty, is such a lonely word, everyone is so untrue. Honesty, is hardly ever heard, mostly what I need from you. I can find a lover, I can find a friend, I can find security until the bitter end. Anyone can comfort me with promises again. I know, I know!”
Billy Joel has some great song lyrics I’ve ever heard but this one in particular nails it, the bitter truth about the world today.
“I can always find someone to say they sympathize, if I wear my heart out on my sleeve. But I don’t want some pretty face to tell me pretty lies, all I want is someone to believe.”
I wrote a post a couple of days ago about is loneliness easier to deal with than getting hurt. Well, loneliness is never an option and it should never be an option. Being alone can be an option because being alone is different from being lonely. I would rather be alone than with a bad companion.
When you write in anonymity in your blogs you can say everything you want to say and hide behind an identity, but does that liberate you at all knowing the person you are directing whatever you post catches it? When you are too honest with your post, there are evil people out there who will use all the truth they read about you.
White lies or filtering whatever you publish in your blog is sometimes the safest way so you don’t have to wash your laundry in public. But if it’s not your own mess you let out in the open and you were the one directly messed with all of that mess, then you can blog about it and be honest and let the world know what kind of scum that person is to give them a wake up call.
But … a person who hides nothing is not afraid to come out in the open and never say things you can never back-up.
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Exactly Sphinx you hit the nail! Fear makes us do unnecessary things.
Being honest does not make a person lonely because most people are attracted to one who claims she or he is honest.
You know I have a hard time believing that a person could be really honest, with nothing to hide. I think people leave some things private, make white lies so as not to “rock the boat”.
I guess some people too tell lies because they fear losing the ones they love, and maybe because they believe that honesty could indeed make them lonely.
Livingstrong,
That sounds sad really, but I agree I learned to expect less so I won’t be disappointed. Nobody is perfect we just have to love their imperfections.
You have a wonderful blog, and by your words I can tell that you are indeed a wonderful person. But I can assure you that the world has been the way it is right now since…always? I’ve felt like you in the past, lonely because of the lack of honesty from people, but times don’t change, people don’t change, the world it is the same way it has been for ever. And I’m not trying to disappoint you, but sometimes we have to face reality, the reality that we have to love ourselves to the maximun, otherwise people won’t do it; we have to take care of ourselves first and be honest with ourselves first, and personally, I don’t expect anything from people anymore, I know each one of us has problems and fears and we all have to face them the best way we can. Before, when I was younger, I used to feel like you, a lot, almost everyday, but not anymore. I’ve learnt to understand that people are people, some better than others, and I am just somewhere in between, trying to do my best while I breathe the oxygen of this earth.