Marriages can be a real challenge dealing with infidelity, betrayal, integrity, intimacy and strength. With celebrity headlines of constant strife, divorce, and infidelity, it’s really easy to see why more and more people are turning their marriages into a living mess. There are many couples who are concerned and are looking for ways to prevent their marriages from falling apart because of looming affairs.
Tell Your Spouse You Love Them:
Too often people get swept up in their busy lives, they overlook the most simplistic essentials to a good relationship. Telling your spouse you love them is pretty simplistic and leaves a lasting devotion. Both of you need to hear those words in order to feel you are significant, a partner and best friend. Too many people just assume their relationship is in good shape and both parties should just know they love each other. An excellent idea would be to renew your vows every 8 to 10 years. This reaffirms your commitment to each other and reminds you why married in the first place. As you head out the door to your careers, say I love you!
Don’t Assume:
When two people assume they love and trust each other, they overlook the possibility there might be an affair looming in the background. The human being marries to start a family, raise their children, and be a part of a social structure. By the time you are in your 40s, your children grow, move on with their own lives, and have children of their own.
Due to modern medicine, people are living into their 80s, 90’s and even 100s! If your marriage has lasted through all sorts of situations, circumstances, and events, it might be time to reconsider your marriage. Mentally you might feel like you just left college a few years ago, but your body isn’t on the same page. You will both start experiencing medical issues and helping each other through the thick and thin of it is critical. Remember where it all started and let each other know you will be there for them no matter what.
Passing On Your Genes:
The biological fact is that as we age, reproducing becomes less likely. At some point, a woman will hit menopause and will not be able to have any more children. When men reach the same age, their hormone levels drop and they become surly. With improved medical science, men are able to have sex beyond what was originally the biological clock.
Due to these medical breakthroughs, men are able to create babies later on in life. They can only accomplish this with a younger woman who can conceive. This can easily lead to a man looking for and finding a younger woman to have sex with. The only way an older couple can address this is through talking about it and hopefully learning there is more in life than having babies or just blatant sex.
The “Yes” Word Can Be Very Powerful:
Everyone has needs and desires along with a feeling of care and support within their lives. As we age and our health declines, we need support even more than ever. When asked: Will you be there when I need you? Am I more important than your job? Can I count on you, no matter what? Do I matter to you? Yes, is all in the delivery. A tepid yes vs a strong confirming yes makes all the difference in the world.
Putting Your Husband Down:
There is no doubt that women have become so much more self-sufficient, etching out important careers and standing on their own feet. But, treating your spouse like an old rag or constantly putting him down is not gong to keep him at home. No matter how society has changed, biologically, a man has a great desire to protect a woman. Take that away, they will be gone!
In many cases, women who put their men down are loaded with insecurity or they feel they cannot trust their mate anymore, so she distances herself from her relationship. This becomes a vicious circle, he will probably start up an affair with someone who looks up to him.
The Good Old Boys Club:
Research has shown when men spend more time with their buddies than their spouse, there will be a great deal of conflict. Your spouse is going to feel they are just not significant. This can leave her feeling needy, unfulfilled and wanting something more in her life. She might just be the one who will reach out to someone else and have an affair.
It might seem like a great idea to have an affair, which is more likely with men. There are so many important things going on your lives and the people in your lives who need you. Men, your wives, children and even grandchildren need you. Running around with the latest “hot ticket” is not the answer. At some point in your life, you will be very much alone and have no one to turn to. Look at your family as an amazing treasure that should be cherished and you will have a full and wonderful life!
Stay gorgeous everyone!
