“Money Grabbing, Be My Guest” was Weng’s title in her post. While Prily in her Capturing the Moments also made a similar themed post, “Marrying for Visa”.
People should not be judgmental about other people’s love story because everyone at one point in their lives has dark secrets and mistakes, only they hide their skeletons well while some share their experience to impart the lesson learned in the process to remind and advise other people hopefully not to make the same mistakes.
Let’s all be realistic and factual, it’s not only Pinays (Filipino women/women from the Philippines) who do this, in fact, if my memory serves me right, Russia was the first ever popular country for mail-order-brides. This type of “culture” of women trafficking happens all over the world, despite advocacies to eliminate this. It’s just that it’s more sophisticated now with the internet readily available and there’s no need for middle men to process and get cuts from “pimping” women.
I only disagree with one point here, that is to single out that Pinays as money grabber or marrying for convenience. Let’s all be honest, this doesn’t just happens here in the Philippines, women from Russia, Vietnam, Africa, India, Thailand are known to be involved in this “business”. It happens everywhere in the world.
However, I would also like to make a point and stress this one clear, that if there are “money grabbers” (let’s use Weng’s term), there are also those who exploit the weakness of other people from the poor countries and are ignorant but have this desire to elevate their social status and lives. It’s a poverty issue.
If there are victims there are the perpetrators or the culprits. However, to say that they are victims and culprit is not also politically correct since both willingly got in that situation. Like Weng, after going through some pride and values swallowing moments, emerged triumphant after finding the love she has now in Allen.
Here’s the moral of those stories, nobody can pretend and lie forever, the truth will always come out. So if you are one of the opportunist who is up for either money or sex, will in the end find a point in their lives that he/she wishes to be honest and find an honest person too that they can be with for now and eternity and be the love of his/her life.
Everybody makes mistakes, but hopefully everyone will learn from these mistakes and realize what’s truly important in life. Love is a gamble everyone plays, some play the game fair some don’t. But a heart who is open and truthful will emerge triumpanth. True love will always prevail.
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Once, I entered a discussion in a forum here in blog catalog wherein somebody said that if there’s one place and one race who loves Americans very much, it’s the Philippines and its people. I put in a strong comment about this and waited for a rebuttal but none came.
I hate it when I hear tags, on us Filipinas, of that sort. If you read my earlier posts in my blog (sphinxsworld), I was only sad about the way my brother-in-law and his common-law wife’s love story ended. But what she did, I fully understand.
Pinays are actually on the losing side with this inter-racial marriages because they get to be uprooted and introduced to a very different culture. The marriage itself is a risk because she marries somebody of another culture and somebody whose personality she’s not even familiar with. I only hope that whenever they marry foreigners, they find themselves in good hands.
Once, I entered a discussion in a forum here in blog catalog wherein somebody said that if there’s one place and one race who loves Americans very much, it’s the Philippines and its people. I put in a strong comment about this and waited for a rebuttal but none came.
I hate it when I hear tags, on us Filipinas, of that sort. If you read my earlier posts in my blog (sphinxsworld), I was only sad about the way my brother-in-law and his common-law wife’s love story ended. But what she did, I fully understand.
Pinays are actually on the losing side with this inter-racial marriages because they get to be uprooted and introduced to a very different culture. The marriage itself is a risk because she marries somebody of another culture and somebody whose personality she’s not even familiar with. I only hope that whenever they marry foreigners, they find themselves in good hands.
Hi Grace,
Thanks for stopping by too … yeah it sucks when people are being singled out coz things happen this happen EVERYWHERE!
Belated Happy Earth Day to you too 🙂
Hi Pie,
Yeah it’s really unfair for those who are really inlove and it sucks when people look judgingly on couples like that. And I am so happy to meet people who are really happy
But this things happen too I met a handful of them. And they are still out there in the open proud of what they doo… yuck!
they are a disgrace.
It’s unfair that Filipinas married to foreigners are viewed as money-grabbing opportunistic VISA-craving leeches.
My sister is married to an Australian. She did not marry him because of VISAs or money. She married him because she’s crazy about him. 🙂
She hates it when people thinks otherwise. And gosh, the rumors about her since she got married are just plain nasty.
I actually stopped by to thank you for stopping by my blog, but this was such an interesting post that I had to read it…I especially like how you ended the post 🙂
Anyway, thanks for stopping by and come back anytime! Oh and happy belated Earth Day!