Me (11:30 am): Kamusta naman kayo? (How are you two?) Referring to my daughter’s nanny/caregiver and my daughter who I expected should be home by now after her school.
Nanny (11:38 am): Ok naman, sori f d ko pinaalam na dalhin d2 sa bhay c Tascia. Nid kitang makausap d2 kc pagdyan d tau makkpag usap dlhin sa mama mo. (We’re ok. Sorry if I didn’t inform you that I will bring Tascia here in our house. I need to talk to you because we can’t talk there because of your mom.) WTF!
Me (11:39 am): Ay nasa bahay nyo na kayo? Uwi muna kayo d2. (What? You are already at your house? Please come home here first.)
Me (11:40 am): Uwi muna kayo please. Tnx. Anu ba sabhn mo? (Come home first please. Thanks. What do you want to tell me?)
Nanny (11:44 am): About s pagaalaga s knya… (About taking care of her)
Me (11:45 am): Pasok k lng d2 sa kwarto pag gusto m ko kausapin. D n tayo maririnig nun. (Just come inside my room if you want to talk to me. She won’t be able to hear us.)
Nanny (11:47 am): D2 lng muna para mkita u bhay nmin … Isa yun s pguusapan ntin. ( We’ll stay here at our house so you can see where I live… that is one of the things we will talk about.)
Me (11:48 am): D ko alam bahay nyo uwi muna kayo. (I don’t know where you live come home first.)
Me (11:51 am): Kumain na ba si tasha? (Did Tasha ate already?)
Me (11:52 am): Sna tnxt mo ko kanina hang intay mo c tasha para nalaman ko. (You should have texted me earlier while waiting for Tasha to inform me.)
Nanny (11:58 am): Sori knina ko lng naisip s jip n d2 s bhay us mgusap. Para makita u rin bhay sori f d naging ok sau .. Papunta n kme dyan. (Sorry I just thought about it while we are inside the jeepney that we should talk at our house so you can see where I live. Sorry if it’s not OK with you. We are on our way there.)
Imagine how my heart was racing frantically while this text exchange was happening. I did not expect the nanny would have the guts to bring my daughter straight to her house after school. It was their first time to go to school alone together and I was testing her and both of them if they could do it on their own. Sadly, she failed the test. She decided on her own.
If you read the lines it sounded like she want to keep hold of my daughter so I would go to their house and talk with them. Thank God, I answered as calm as I could so she didn’t suspect that I was already panicking.
She asked me to give her a chance but I said I don’t want to because obviously she wants her way with the kid and with us. The one time she and only time she did something I did not know taking my child to a place she is not familiar with and me not knowing the place is something scary. Most importantly since my daughter is different she can’t really tell me what she has done or where they have been so how would I know my daughter was safe where she was. I don’t want to risk that. Trust is something important to have with a caregiver she broke mine completely.
I hired her because she was my sisters friend (sternly corrected by my sister she is not her friend but just a high school classmate) and she recommended her to us (because she just want to teach people to fish). She knows where she live and all but of course my sister is in Dubai so she can’t really do anything from there.
The nanny wants to bring my daughter to their home and take care of her from her home and not from MY home. She said she will just take Tasha back to my home at night. WTF is that. She said she can’t do what she want with Tasha if I and my mom (her granny) is around to interfere (ugh). I told her I want her to learn in her normal environment not from anybody elses home. What’s the use of teaching her away from home to bring her home at night at the same environment. If you want to teach my child teach her at her home not anywhere else. Besides she already asked for a two days off what kind of caring she would give my daughter.
Anyway, all ends well. Back to normal for me, my mom and my daughter. My birthday wish still not granted though. Sigh.
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Wow! What a scary thing to happen. I would have let the nanny go too.
Nobody takes a child of mine anywhere without my permission, or to a place I don’t know about or where. Ugh!
I would have been wondering what she couldn’t teach your daughter in front of you or her grandma, especially a special needs child.
It may have been innocent but when you don’t know someone very well that can be really scary.
I think you handled this wonderfully!
🙂
@ Jes, James, Dragonstar and Arlene, yeah Thank God she brought my daughter. Buti nalang or else baka mas malala pa ang nangyari.
@ Jes nagluluksa kami for my dad who passed away last July.
sorry sth like this happened to your daughter. Good to know she is back home safely. Kaya minsan mas mabuti pa relative nalang talaga magbantay sa mga little kids.
What a worrying situation for you! I’m glad it was OK, but you certainly need a different nanny.
Salamat sa Dios at ok ang anak mo. Tama lang na u terminated her (yaya).
I would suggest u always do this thing “ASAP”.
ASAP means always say a prayer.
God bless you my dear friend! (^_^)
James Parmis
http://www.JamesParmis.com